2021.10.16 01:52 Aniform Friend seems to be avoiding talk of my transition with each month, anyone experience similar?
This friend of mine was one of the last people I came out to. It was, now that I'm thinking of it, in order from far left down to... well nearly right. I've still got one more Trump-loving friend I haven't told and I kinda got more freaked out now that they're using us as their latest culture war. Though, I think my coming out will cause his perspective to shift, I just haven't had the courage.
The friend in question, however, is somewhere center, maybe more Libertarian (lol, so center-right). He is honestly my closest friend and it would suck to lose the friendship. I live in the Northeast and it was a further concern with him moving out to the West Coast for a couple years. I figured, he could easily use this opportunity to kick me to the curb.
Fortunately, he didn't and his response was better than expected, he outright accepted me, told me we're friends no matter what, and even extended an offer that if I needed any help during my transition, he was there. It was great and over the next few weeks and couple months we'd talk about it. No question was forbidden. He worked hard to correct himself if he misgendered me or if he deadnamed me.
Then, I noticed that slowly changing. His wife still calls me by my name, but he started using my last name to refer to me. Which, I decided not to take issue with at the time, even though the whole calling people by their last names I view as something guys (or my guy friends) do. And, he'd never use last names with any other women.
I noticed he'd avoid gendering me and seems to be making extra effort to avoid any pronouns at all and it's started to make me feel othered. Especially at times when I refer to myself as a woman, he kinda goes quiet.
He no longer asks about it anymore, my progress, my experience, nothing. In fact, he seems to avoid it. If he asks about my weekend and I say, "Oh, I'm going with so and so to the Renaissance Fair!" He'll respond ecstatically, we'll talk for 30 mins about it. But, if I'm like, "My sister is taking me clothes shopping!" He's like, (monotone) "Okay" then quickly changes subjects.
I know that this stuff is likely outside his scope, he has no frame of reference for me gushing over a manicure, or me being stupid excited over some tiny change in my body. But, I am excited, this is a crazy time of my life and I'm happy to experience it. It just seems like he's not only lost interest, but avoiding it altogether. I can tell how fidgety he gets when I refer to myself as a woman. I can tell it's awkward for him when I send out a pic of me literally changing with each month.
Yet, he still visits me from across the country all the time, we literally game together 3 times per week, so he's not casting me aside.
Maybe, and I think of this now as I write this, it seemed distant and far off to him, but now things are changing and perhaps he's worried about me being different. I might need to discuss with him and see if that's it and reassure him.
Though, if it's not that, any advice? Have you experienced similar? What happened for you?
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2021.10.16 01:52 tranoidnoki Nothing special, just one of my favorites
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2021.10.16 01:52 CakeDayOrDeath Fucking hell. One of my Facebook friends changed her profile picture to a picture of an enormous spider.
My fear is mostly of very large spiders. I'm genuinely considering blocking her, because even messaging her to ask her to change her profile picture requires looking at that profile picture, and I panic every time I look at it.
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2021.10.16 01:52 xXIronBeagleXx No wonder I have trauma
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2021.10.16 01:52 dobbyisafreepup And constitutional scholars.
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2021.10.16 01:52 Splekorthing Car Mods scaled to CJ
Hi. Are there any car mods that are scaled to CJ? For example, CJ's height is 6'1 ft, and Koenigsegg Jesko is about 4'0 ft. Are there any mod authors there that pay attention to these kinds of details?
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2021.10.16 01:52 anotherfeverdream I am sorry
I am sorry for not trusting you. I’m sorry for letting my anxiety ruin something good, and i’m even more sorry that I never said this when I should have.
I understand that it’s too late now and it probably doesn’t matter anymore, we’ve played the apologies game before, but I needed to let this out. If I ever get the chance, i’ll tell you in person.
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2021.10.16 01:52 RLCD-Bot [Dingo] [Black Dingo: Silencer] [Black Fiber Optic II] [Cristiano]
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2021.10.16 01:52 SenpaiSamu BURY THE LIGHT DEEP WITHIN!!!!
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2021.10.16 01:52 necroqin How does immunity and reflection interact?
According to wiki, immunity ignores effect but not totally avoid it, so it should still be able to reflect?
For example, a shock immunity character equipped with Esh's Visage, is him still be able to reflect shock to nearby enemies when hit by a shock attack?
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2021.10.16 01:52 flossgoblin Friend For a Day
2021.10.16 01:52 Ambitious_Quit755 Smite bugged (does 900 damage on low levels)
I read something online about this old bug but my friend right now is playing master yi in ranked. His smite does 900 damage when he was level 9 and even before that. I will post a video of this later when his game is done.
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2021.10.16 01:52 TheExileTargaryen Pink & Teal
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2021.10.16 01:52 otteroasis Oct LSAT complaints: Option to cancel or keep score
I was disconnected twice during my RC section and lost about 2 mins after the proctor got me back online. I filed an official complaints and got a reply from LSAC today. ( I took on Sunday so this is not the massive tech outage on Saturday) They said I only have the option to cancel or keep score. I was hoping to do a re-test since I'd like to submit my apps this month. Has anyone experienced similar situations? Anyways to get a re-test instead of cancel/keep score?
Also, if I choose to cancel, will LSAC note the cancel reason on my file, or is it just "candidate cancel"?
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2021.10.16 01:52 darienme Look!! Just look at the smug on his face!! 🙄 Does your cat do this? Pushing you to the edge of YOUR bed???! 🐈⬛
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2021.10.16 01:52 mcclutz [USA-PA] [H] Custom Gaming PC [W] Cash/Paypal
Bucks County, PA | Pickup only (I don't have a working car)
Selling my gaming PC because I'm away at school in a dorm with no space for this beast. Everything but the GPU has been used (and not OC'd (besides docp)) for about 2 months. I didn't know I was going back to school in person so I chose the wrong time to buy. The gpu is brand new. I drove to NYC to trade my FHR card for a LHR hybrid card just so I could sell new and there would be no worry of mining or anything. Total build cost was $3984.
Extremely cool water cooled pc. 360mm rad on the cpu and 240mm rad on the gpu (plus a gpu fan) + 12 case fans. (yes 12 is nuts but it has amazing temps)
Gpu is a 3080 FTW3 Ultra Hybrid. It came with the hybrid cooler - I did not install it. All products are under warranty and I have receipts+boxes for everything. 3 extra unused fans from aio too.
Crosshair VIII Dark Hero | RTX 3080 FTW3 Ultra Hybrid | Ryzen 9 5900X | 32GB Gskill Trident Z Neo 3600cl16 | 2TB SABRENT ROCKET 4.0 | 2TB Samsung 860 Evo | Corsair RM850x | O11 Dynamic XL ROG Certified | Corsair Commander Pro
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2021.10.16 01:52 HauntingBit1128 Michael Myers - S TEIR scream
2021.10.16 01:52 KadiDuzIt KadiDuzIt x Key Glock x Pyrex Whippa Free Type Beat "TRUTH"
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2021.10.16 01:52 NorwegianCCPbot Xinjiang - We will remember
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2021.10.16 01:52 FireGold763 The Police - Synchronicity II
2021.10.16 01:52 mousec69 LA Forum
Going to a show there next Sunday, from Chicagoland area. Any good options near the Forum for after show munchies?
Staying at the Hampton Inn (Hawthorn). I was hoping to walk back to the hotel after the show and grab some food along the way.
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2021.10.16 01:52 DeltaSierraAlpha Looks like Shadowheart modified her gith armour
2021.10.16 01:52 barry-savitar-allen This didn’t get reviewed last night.
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2021.10.16 01:52 PCChipsM922U X-Dream - Out Of Your Control
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2021.10.16 01:52 lil-athena Sleepy brown eyes 🎃🍂